Why Does Life Suck So Much? Tips If You Feel Your Life Sucks:- Do you feel like your life just isn’t working out the way that you want it to?
- Maybe you’re not in a relationship or you’re in a relationship that you just don’t care about.
- Maybe you don’t have a job or you’re at a job you just don’t love.
Either way, the direction you’re heading isn’t the one you want to be in.
So what do you do about that? Well, now I’m going to share a few tips on how you can change your perspective so you can learn to appreciate the most out of life.
Why Does Life Suck So Much? Tips If You Feel Your Life Sucks
Life is an interesting beast. You only get one shot at it and things just aren’t working out for you and you haven’t found a path you want to take you might feel like you’re just living day to day where you’re not happy, not excited, not motivated to do anything. And that is a sucky place to be in, don’t get me wrong.
In some cases, the best thing to do is to seek out therapy, is to go to counseling, is to speak to someone about what you’re going through.
There are also small things you can do on top of that to help you kind of shift your day to day mindset and shift you towards being grateful for what you do have.
What’s Your Morning Mindset When You Wakeup?
When you wake up in the morning, do you feel that sense of dread because you have to live another day of an unhappy life or you feel like there’s potential? There are things you can do to change your life around.
If you’re living with that sense of dread then yeah, that’s the first thing you need to tackle, because you’re not appreciating, you’re not noticing the positive things you may have in your life.
They’re getting overlooked because you’re more worried about the things you don’t have.
Now I don’t say that to discredit any struggles you may be going through, but I think it’s important to take notice of the small wins that we can look forward to.
- Is there a roof over your head?
- Can you go to sleep knowing that you’re safe in your own home?
- Do you have food in your fridge that you can wake up and eat if you’re hungry?
- Is there a bathroom with running water that you can use if you want to brush your teeth or wash your face?
To you, these things might not matter because they’re part of your day-to-day. They’re not part of your overall bigger picture. They don’t affect how you choose to live your life, how you choose to carry forward in your day, how you choose to interact with others. But I would argue that they do.
Having an easy-going morning, a morning where you can kind of prepare your day and get things going without having to worry about these little tiny things is going to make your life a little bit easier than other people who don’t have access to those things.
So if you feel like that first thought in your mind is always going to be that negative sense of dread, try to make that second thought the appreciation for what you do have.
Taking that active goal and looking for positive things is going to influence you to look for more positive things as the day rolls along.
One thing to remember here is that a negative mindset doesn’t just exist at the beginning of the day.
Negative thoughts tend to sprinkle throughout your different interactions with people, the different activities that you do, even in your quiet alone time when you’re sitting there thinking by yourself, that’s when negative thoughts tend to spring up.
Stop Negative Thoughts Completely?
I think instead of stopping the negative thoughts, you instead should overpower them with positive thoughts, and one way you can go about doing that is by keeping a gratitude journal.
This can be a collection of the things you’re grateful for in life, there are a few ways you can do that.
- One is keeping an actual gratitude journal, something you write in every single day. The moments that you’re grateful for and the things that you’re happy about.
- Another way is to just keep an app with a note on your phone where you can write different things that pop into your mind, different moments that you’re grateful for, people you’re happy about, situations you want to learn more about and explore.
For example, I remember back when I was in college and I wasn’t sure about what I wanted to do with my life, I didn’t have a clear direction and because of that I felt an overwhelming sense of anxiety, I still kept a little notepad with a pen.
And every single day, every time I saw something that just gave me a spark of joy, it could be a person walking down the street, it could be two people laughing in a conversation, it could be the grass under my feet as I walk to class, any of those positive things I would write down.
Just having a list of all the things that kind of brought that sense of joy in my life made me feel better about myself.
And these weren’t even things that were happening to me, I was simply observing the world around me, and in that observation, I saw that happiness was possible.
Sometimes it wasn’t reaching for the highest goal, sometimes it was just stopping to smell a flower or stopping to have a conversation with someone on the street. And the cynic in you might be thinking, yeah that’s great that everyone else is happy but I’m still struggling.
So what can I do to help myself? Well in those moments I think the best thing for you to do is to stop and breathe. Focus on your breathing.
This is a form of meditation that I think can help calm your nerves and calm your anxiety.
How Meditation Is Helpful For You?
Most of the time we’re annoyed or angry or just irritated with the world because things just aren’t going our way, it’s because we’re out of alignment with our bodies. I think we’re turning back to that alignment by breathing.
By being calm at the moment, it’s going to help us analyze and assess that situation a lot better.
Is that to say breathing is going to help you finally get a girlfriend or actually get a job or maybe even pass your classes? No.
It’s simply going to help you look at those situations and realize that over time you will find a way through them. These moments in your life don’t have to define you and a lot of times we let them define us.
We let them determine that we don’t have worth, that we aren’t worthy of something positive in life but breathing, taking control of your body helps you realize that you are.
Say Thankyou To The People You Care About
Another thing I would recommend doing to help you feel like you’re not on this journey alone struggling by yourself is by saying thank you to the people involved in your life.
Simply offering thanks for their guidance, for their kindness, for their wellbeing is going to help you feel like you’re not alone.
Sometimes people want to be more helpful and involved in your life but they’re afraid they’re going to overstep their boundaries so they pull back.
They don’t get as involved which might make you feel more alone. So, simply offering them thanks for what they do bring in return is gonna allow them to feel like they can be more open with you. That they do see a more vulnerable side to you. That the two of you can work together.
Being able to recognize that you’re struggling in some kind of way and that there needs to be a change there is a major first step to take and that second step is being open to the idea of getting help from others.
Offering thanks allows you to recognize that you’re someone worth helping and allows other people to realize that you’re are reaching out to them for their generosity.
And I know, asking for help is hard. Sometimes pride is what’s driving the ship and no one ever wants to be perceived as weak or incapable of doing something themselves but we’re a social species. We’re here to help each other. No one is better than anyone else.
If someone is willing to offer you help if someone is willing to guide you or just show you what you need to do to get on the right path for yourself it’s worth looking into.
Always Try To Keep Your Struggles In Perspective
Let’s just be honest here. Sometimes you may feel like there’s nothing to be grateful for. Everything in your life sucks, nothing is going right and you can’t find a way out of it.
Well, I think in those situations, the best thing for you to do is to try to gain perspective on what your problems are with other people.
You might see other people struggling with other things, things that they’re having hardships with, and at least you can be grateful that you’re not dealing with the problems that they may encounter.
For example, let’s say you don’t have the best type of relationship with your parents.
- You fight a lot with them,
- You just don’t get along,
- Things are always tense,
In those situations, you might think that there’s nothing to be grateful for.
But try to think about someone you know that may not have parents anymore, maybe they passed away, or maybe they’re divorced and moved away, maybe they had such a catastrophic ending that they can no longer interact with their parents.
In that situation you might think well, at least I can be grateful for the fact that I have my parents there. That there’s an opportunity to work on our relationship to make things better potentially, rather than not having them at all.
I think having perspective and awareness for the things you have access to in your life with other people is going to grant you the opportunity to practice gratitude for them because they are things that are active in your life.
They may not be in the best condition, they may not be how you want them to be but everything is small steps guys, you always have the opportunity to work on the things that are there in front of you.
Don’t overlook them. Don’t ignore them. Recognize that change is possible.
Remember, if you’re not happy with where you are in life that’s ok. There will be days where you feel down and there isn’t much that you can do to kick out of it but, every single day brings a new opportunity for you so take advantage of that opportunity by practicing gratitude whenever you can.